It’s not really my style to write social commentary – I usually prefer to talk about myself. Haha.
But that doesn’t mean I don’t read and enjoy the French Marie Claire. And recently, I was super shocked by a useless scandal that came up in France when the January issue came out.
To summarize everything for those of you who aren’t French, Yann Moix is a writer I’ve never read and who never particularly interested me. He’s done TV shows where I’ve seen him create empty and frankly obnoxious debates, and it didn’t take me long to realize he just likes to shock people. And for me, people who enjoy shocking people with empty, disturbing topics – that doesn’t do anything for me – nothing at all.
So I really didn’t care at all when he decided to say in Marie Claire that he would never sleep with women over 50 because their bodies are “not extraordinary at all” and that women that age are basically “invisible.”
I just thought – OK here’s another out-of-touch person who’s getting too much attention.
The problem, and the thing that made me sad, was when I read Marianne Mairesse’s editorial where she explained that the things Mr. Moix had said sent her into a depressing thought process (which she would probably say was realistic) about the state of her body and the things she thinks “are left” for her to enjoy in life (flowers, the sky, literature, and her children).
That’s what shocked me and made me sad.
Power and desire – those things come from within. Seduction belongs to us, whether you are 20 years old or 80. Being desirable or seductive is a choice at 20 and it’s a choice at 80.
Beauty, or having that “spark”, is all about self-confidence.
SO HOW AM I STILL READING THINGS LIKE THIS IN MY FAVORITE MAGAZINES?
I’m forty-three and I am far from being invisible, believe me.
Except when I want to be invisible, and in that case, sure, no one sees me.
Subjecting ourselves to the gaze of others is what steals our beauty.
When we do that, we choose to give our power to idiots who can destroy it in three words under the pretext of “honesty”.
We can choose to share some random man’s sexual preferences in a women’s magazine.
So, Mr. Moix happens to have a preference for young women and Asian women, which is honestly an insult to young women, older women, Asian women, and just about anyone else – and he probably needs some serious therapy.
But I don’t think Marie Claire, which is historically a feminist magazine, is the right place to publish statements like that unless it includes a proper analysis and a big dose of mockery.
We can choose to give a voice to all kinds of old out-of-touch idiots like Donald Trump, who validate all the other old out-of-touch idiots who are frightened by the beauty of women, and need pre-packaged easy content, and continue to promote the idea that “youth is amazing” (which couldn’t be further from the truth – every age is both difficult and incredible at the same time).
But giving even an ounce of importance to statements like that, and worse – thinking about “what is left” for us as we get older – come on, please!
That gives a bad name to all the wonderful, open-minded men I meet and see every day who have none of these ridiculous prejudices other than loving others.
Dear Marianne – you are beautiful, you are young, you are talented, and people will love you to the end of your days.
But only if that’s what YOU want.