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Roommate Etiquette

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Roommate Etiquette

J’aimerais qu’il y ait une espèce de règlement parce que franchement, il y a trop de gens qui n’ont rien compris.

Je parle de règlement pour les colocations.

Voilà les cinq trucs les plus rédhibitoires auxquels j’ai été confrontée. Vous en avez d’autres à ajouter ? Je suis sûre que j’oublie plein de trucs importants !

1. Quand on fait la vaisselle après avoir invité plein de monde à dîner, on n’oublie PAS de laver aussi la tasse du petit-déj’ que sa coloc a laissé dans l’évier. Laisser juste la tasse, ça fait un peu mesquin. Non ?

2. On ne considère PAS les parties communes comme sa chambre. Si mon coloc veut avoir une chambre bordélique, pas de problème, mais je ne suis pas obligée d’avoir à subir son bazar.

3. Après une bonne douche, on enlève ses cheveux de la bonde, mais on ne les laisse pas trainer dans un coin de la baignoire. On ramasse et on met à la poubelle. Moi, je n’ai pas envie d’avoir à toucher des poils qui viennent de je ne sais où. Beurk.

4. Oui, ton mec habite dans un placard et toi, tu as un super appart en coloc hyper central. Mais ce n’est pas pour ça que tu dois inviter ton mec à dormir tous les soirs. Ta coloc a signé pour avoir une coloc, pas deux. Et puis c’est une personne de plus qui utilise le PQ que ta coloc vient juste de racheter. Vous trouvez que j’exagère ?

5. Le gel douche Aesop de ta coloc te fait trop envie. On peut demander à l’utiliser une ou deux fois, bien sûr. Mais on évite d’être la fille qui en utilise juste un tout petit peu chaque jour sous prétexte que « ça ne se verra pas ». Ce qu’on utilise, on le remplace.

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  • lmao this is perfect as I’m going to be living with 1-2 roommates for 10 weeks while I take a course in Toronto. I actually plan to take my bathroom stuff into the bathroom when I use it and take it back into my room when I’m done. Is that crazy? As for dishes, I feel like that’s something you can ask your roommate right away – how they want to deal with dishes. Everyone does their own or what? I know my Airbnb apartment has pots and pans but I’m bringing my own just in case we have to fight over same-time use. Am I nuts? lmao

    http://www.dressupchowdown.com

  • Thuy, my thought is that 10 weeks isn’t very long; knowing that you will be living together for a limited time, it isn’t really worth it to overthink things or go into the living situation anticipating problems.
    Leave your products in the bathroom, what’s the worst that can happen? So what if someone ends up using your toothpaste? No need to pack pots, some kitchen minimalism could encourage some new friendships by forcing you to cook together; you can buy cheap new pots in Toronto if you find that you really need them. You’ve got an opportunity to make some lifelong friends, but it will be more challenging if you start out the relationship by signaling that you are standoffish or don’t trust them.

  • C’est clair !! Faut faire appel aux compétences de Sheldon Cooper en matière de règlement intérieur ! ;))

  • TV volume in the living room that makes the whole house shake!! Headphones!! Go to the cinema!!

  • As they each left for college, I encouraged my nieces to have an initial meeting with their roommates, create guidelines, and then arrange a monthly meeting to address any problems. Young people today understand more than ever the benefits of working together.

  • 1. Everyone needs some time alone, so if you realize you haven’t left the house in over a week make a point of spending an evening or afternoon away so you’re roommate can dance around the living room for five minutes.
    2. If the kitchen is a small space, as they often are in shared houses, try not to make elaborate cups of tea every time your roommate is cooking or cleaning or whatever.
    3. NO SEX IN THE SHOWER.
    4. Be mindful of mould or mildew growing in your room. This effects the air quality in the house for everyone and your roommates do not want to have to admit they’ve been snooping around in your room trying to find where that weird smell is coming from.
    5. Last but not least, if you have guests staying overnight or over the weekend or such be sure to give a heads up and not leave an I expecting roommate to supply towels, breakfast etc. If you’re hosting someone please be a host to them!

  • The not leaving the apartment thing is pretty real. I live with some boys who don’t leave the house and it makes the apartment feel a bit claustrophobic. In my last apartment, my roommates were out of the house a lot and had significant others and I would dance around to beyonce while I cooked alone. Really miss that now!

  • Un rappel constant de pourquoi je n’ai jamais eu, ni voulu de roomate. Et la maintenant je vis avec mon fiancé après 8 ans de relation et on se partage les tâches, c’est moins « chacun pour soi » comme dans une collocation.
    Bonne chance!!!

  • – try not to watch hour long episodes of animal doctors
    – pay the rent
    – if your clothes are on the clothes horse for 14 days it’s safe to say there dry
    – don’t drink 16 pints of Guinness and forget to close the toilet door when your bladder screams for the love of god safe me.

  • The post college roommate experience is pretty hard, I feel like you often live with friends and don’t have enough conversations about expectations. Most people I know have gotten more blunt with expectations as they got a bit older and more set in their ways.

    1. Clean off the counters/stove/floor if you are messy cook.
    2. Don’t leave your random tinder dates here.
    3. Don’t leave moldy science projects in the fridge.
    4. Don’t abuse my expensive kitchen knives!
    5. Don’t be that person that uses all the paper towels/toilet paper/soap and never replaces them.
    6. I am excited about your dinner party or get together, but clean that shit up and take the recycling out!

  • Becky Simpson 25 août 2016, 12:48 / Répondre

    I love this! All so true. To add to the list: no crumbs on the kitchen counter and no toothpaste in the bathroom sink.

    Funny you write about such a topic because I have a book about this that was *just* released late June. It’s called The Roommate Book and it’s an illustrated guide to making the most of roommate life. I normally don’t link to my work in comments, but this feels appropriate. ha! http://www.beckysimpson.co/books

  • Si un problème survient, essayer d’abord de le régler avec le(s) colocataire(s), NE SURTOUT PAS APPELER EN PREMIER LIEU LE PROPRIETAIRE. Sinon, bonjour l’ambiance et le rapport de confiance…

    Et puis ces règles s’appliquent aussi aux Air’b’n’b et autres partages d’appartements il me semble.

  • Hahaha, this is so perfect! I had to explain to my current roommate that « recycling » actually means taking the stuff out instead of simply piling up paper and plastics in the corner of our pantry. I think at one point the pile was 3ft tall!

  • The struggle is real.. And a few more points from my previous and current experiences:

    1) if you have a cat (or two) make SURE their poop is scooped out regularly and your roommates don’t faint from the smell as soon as they come home
    2) through away the old food from the fridge and cupboards, pretty obvious
    3) put your make up on in YOUR room, not the bathroom

  • J’ai des histoires terribles sur mes collocations à Londres pendant 10 ans ! Genre la fille qui oublie sa serviette hygiénique sale et bien en évidence dans la salle de bain ou le gars qui ne nettoie pas la cuvette des toilettes après son caca … L’évier pas rincé et plein de détritus, le colloc sonore quand il fait crac crac la nuit, ou le couple qu’il fait en plein jour et on entend tout , l’amoncellement de vaisselle sale qui s’empile le week-end: super le petit déjeuner dans la crasse. Les produits périmés qui moisissent dans le frigo jamais nettoyé … Bref je suis heureuse d’etre chez moi et de ne plus vivre en colloc !

  • You are way too nice ! They shouldn’t be using your AESOP soap at all, hands off! I have now started to keep my soap, shampoo and toilet paper in my bedroom – still considering whether or not it would be worthwhile to also hide laundry and dish washing detergent.

  • Ha ha ha ! Terrible and true!! I would add:
    1. Don’t get high ten times a day in your room. Its a bummer to be in rhythms of stoner when one one is not.
    2. Don’t move your girlfriend in secretly .
    3. Don’t say you have a job then hang around the apartment all day as your parents support you.
    4. If you CLEAN, put the cleaning supplies AWAY. If others have to clean up after your cleaning up it means your cleaning up is not cleaning up,
    5. Before you share tell stories about bodily functions , emotional trauma, relationship drama – ASK. Your roomie may not be in the mood — so be mindful of the energy you spread.
    6. Buy your own food, eat your own food.
    Phew! All this crap is why I do air B and B now in preference to having a roommate !

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