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I’ve always loved coffee, I could never go without it.
I’ve always had curves.
I need an hour of calm to wake up in the morning.
I never wear black.
I never go to a restaurant alone.
I’ve always hated exercising.
I can’t live without chocolate.

All of that is true. Or actually, it was true. Those were things I said to myself a lot, and for such a long time, that it became my reality. Then one day, I stopped drinking coffee.

It seems like nothing, but it was super difficult. A lot harder than I imagined. See, it was like drinking coffee was part of my identity. Like a lot of people, I was convinced I couldn’t start my day without coffee. I loved everything about it. The smell, the taste, the feeling, and above all—the ritual. The idea that I was taking a break. The idea of carrying this warm drink in my hand. Opening a new bag of coffee beans and sticking my nose in it. I loved it. Everyone knew that about me and accepted it—even Chris would be ok driving for fifteen minutes in the morning to get coffee for me.

Then one day, I decided to stop. I had been living with a kind of chronic nervousness and it was starting to weigh me down—I was used to coping with it, but I started to wonder if coffee might be part of the reason, and how I’d feel without caffeine. My energy was crashing a lot. Would quitting coffee help me regulate that ?

It was a lot harder than I thought. I started by switching to black tea so I could still have that boost to start my day. I’m lucky, I love tea. After a week, making tea in the morning felt pretty natural, even though I had a few slip-ups like “okay, this morning I’m going to treat myself and have a coffee!” – when people offered me coffee, I had a hard time saying no. No seriously, I really could not do it.

The coffee habit was so imprinted on my mind that I couldn’t really think of many alternatives like:

“No thanks, I’ll have a green tea!”
“No, nothing for me, thanks!” or
“No, but a sparkling water would be great”

(I don’t drink other drinks like sodas or juice, that’s never really been my thing. One more reason why coffee had such a huge place in my life…And wine of course! Wine!)

But what I missed most was the feeling of comfort I’d associated with the idea of the coffee break. So hard! For at least three weeks, I kept ordering coffee, and at first I’d only take a few sips, and by the end, I would just hold it in my hands, smell it, and that was enough. The one day I completely stopped.

That whole process took me three months. Today, I’ve pretty much kicked the habit. There are still times when I miss coffee! Just talking to you about it makes me miss it.

But a weird thing happened—I lost my taste for coffee. It’s like the taste of coffee changed and I didn’t find it as appealing as before. Like an ex that makes you wonder: “What in the world made me so crazy about him!?” The ritual, the kitchen filled with the smell of coffee brewing in the morning—that’s what I miss. But coffee itself, not so much.

And to answer my initial question: yes, I do feel better, a lot less nervous. It’s almost like I discovered a new me.

Without coffee, as I feared, I’m not the same person. I’m more chill.

The reason I’m telling you all this is because this experience, this little detail, totally changed my perspective on my life. I was always extremely attached to my rituals and my tastes. It’s not even that I was attached to them, for me, it was seriously like those things were who I was. And taking them away or changing them was like taking away a part of myself.

But even so, I’ve slowly started to make changes over the past few months; questioning the things I’m attached to, what they add to my life and what they take away. That goes for both my physical habits and my emotional ones.

What effect would it have if I decided to start really loving exercise? What effect would it have if I let my fears slip away and I adopted a dog? What effect would it have if I stopped looking at New York as the only city in the world where I could live? What effect would it have if I tried not living in a state of permanent guilt about everything? (Much easier said than done, but just thinking about it totally changes your perspective on yourself)

There, I was finally able to realize how fluid my personality really is, and that it’s much deeper than the little habits I was attached to. I started to see that in life, we change, we evolve, we mature… Or even get younger and crazier. We change our minds. What worked before might not work anymore. Values that were of utmost importance for us in the past might slowly lose their power.

And even though change is scary, resisting it can sometimes do more harm than good.

Some things are eternal, but certainly not everything.

And we have the right to change. It’s a lot easier when we let go of the preconceived ideas we have about ourselves, or worse—the ideas other people have about us.

I started with a tiny little detail—quitting coffee, and I ended up realizing that tomorrow, I could be a completely different version of myself. It gave me wings, an incredible freedom, and a much nicer, more flexible relationship with the people and things in my life. You just have to take your time negotiating with these attachments and be realistic – if it took me three months to quit coffee, how long is the rest going to take!?

But I imagine it’s a kind of gymnastics, and the more open you are to change, the easier it gets.

Oh by the way, at the moment, I feel like completely changing my style. What about you, what do you want to change?

Translated by Andrea Perdue

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  • Je comprends, le café pour moi c’est un peu comme les pauses clopes, entre copines, entre deux amphis, maintenant ça me rappelle des souvenirs, on s’y rattache alors que on en est loin ! Moi j’ai commencé par arrêter de fumer dans cette démarche, j’avais commencé un été, j’étais loin, tout le monde fumait et en Inde les cigarettes ne coutaient rien, et j’y ai pris goût, le matin avec les copains, puis le soir en regardant le soleil et on garde l’habitude, j’avais l’impression que ça faisait partie de moi alors que pas du tout, je ne sais pas si j’y arriverais avec le café, c’est tellement naturel, après le repas, le matin voire le soir ‘Tiens on se prend un déca ?”
    Mais en tout cas c’est interessant de s’y pencher de plus près…
    Bisous !

  • Hi, Garance–I stopped drinking coffee for similar reasons. I also was not sleeping (at all at times or well in general). I slowly changed to tea. It was hard and I completely embraced my tea identity. I also began to think–never again will I have coffee because it was all of these things. I travel a lot for work and one day last November, just after the terrorist attacks in Paris, my colleague and I were getting ready to do some work with young people to help them address what happened. He was drinking a lovely warm cup of coffee. My tea was always lovely and warm but now it seemed a bit thin. I had a cup of coffee with him. I loved it. It was fine. I drink one a day in the morning, that’s it. I, too, love the ritual and the tastes and the things about it. And, I don’t feel the things I felt before because, to be honest, there were other things going on and I labeled them “coffee” to solve them. That’s not to say there are not good reasons to stop any habit or to rethink them but one day you might have a lovely flat white in Sydney and you won’t feel nervous or anxious and you won’t drink 12 of them. You will just have that nice drink as you write in your journal or sit with a friend or gaze out as they people pass by. x

  • Ce billet me parle tellement… Envie de tout changer, absolument tout. De ma coupe de cheveux à mon rythme de vie, de mon caractère à certaines de mes valeurs (structurantes autant qu’enfermantes par moment), de mon travail et mes référents émotionnels… Mais par où commencer quand on est préoccupé par la survie matérielle et économique, qui oriente malheureusement (trop) nos énergies quotidiennes (et les limite surtout)…?
    Restent toutes ces petites choses en nous que l’on peut progressivement assouplir… en cela, je partage l’esprit de ce que tu écris…
    Merci pour ce rappel.
    Mylène

  • laurette August, 31 2016, 9:32 / Reply

    Je me retrouve encore dans votre chronique. En ce moment, et depuis 1 ou 2 ans, j’ai envie de changement. Ca a commencé par les cheveux redevenus très courts et blonds. Puis l’hygiène de vie, essayer de manger plus sainement surtout avec le vie que l’on a… courir métro boulot, et depuis 2ans et demi deux jumelles qui m’épuisent et me tirent toute mon énergie. Mais ne serait-ce tout simplement la quarantaine…. J’ai toujours aimé mangé, être entourée d’amis, une vrai épicurienne quoi et tout ça arrosé de bons vins… Mais depuis bien 1 an j’essaie vraiment de mieux mangé, regarder d’où viennent les fruits et légumes, cuisiner rapide mais bon, et je trouve que mon corps le ressent, je me sens mieux dans mes baskets.
    J’ai toujours aimé la mode sans pour autant être une photocopie des magasines, j’adore m’inspirer de ce qui se fait, et en ce moment je me rends compte que je change beaucoup, mes goûts ont changé, envie d’être plus femme, moins femme/enfant
    Enfin, tout ça pour dire, que le changement ça a du bon, on évolue en vieillissant, et nos envies changent et s’adaptent à l’air du temps, et moi j’aime ça, ça booste…
    merci encore pour vos conseils et vos chroniques.

  • I know it’s a cliche, but it felt less like one when my 20-something son said it to me while he was in Morocco as a Peace Corps volunteer: “Life’s a journey, not a destination.” It’s true! And speaking of change, this summer we sold our home of 23 years in Massachusetts, have been living in NY state for the past couple of months and plan on driving cross country to settle in Portland, Oregon. It’s a change we have been discussing for a few years now and it’s finally coming to pass.

  • Les deux l August, 31 2016, 9:50 / Reply

    Est-ce l’âge ? Mais je me reconnais parfaitement dans ce post. Je me laisse porter par le changement. Cela a commencé pendant nos vacances où nous sommes partis ailleurs. En mode nomadisme, j’ai changé des petites habitudes surtout dans le regard que je porte sur ma famille, mes enfants. Comme s’il n’y avait qu’une façon pour moi de faire les choses. Et, tout d’un coup, j’ai eu envie de liberté et de me/leur donner le goût de la liberté alors que je me suis toujours vue comme une fille bourrée de contraintes, de réflexes et de peur. Et puis, ça continue au retour de vacances : le week-end dernier, j’ai pris mes rollers et je me suis dit “qu’est-ce que ça me ferait de penser que je n’ai en fait pas peur?” et là c’est magique, la peur s’envole un peu (pas tout à fait complètement) et on glisse mieux. Peut-être que la peur est un automatisme dont on peut se défaire ? En tout cas, la liberté a le goût du bonheur…

  • C’est drôle, moi c’est le «je ne porterai jamais de noir» qui s’applique à moi. Mais au cours des 2 dernières années, je suis passée de 0 (je ne plaisante pas. J’avais peut-être des souliers noirs, mais aucun vêtement de cette couleur). Et puis la chorale que j’ai jointe ne jurait que par cette couleur et j’ai bien dû laisser le placard de ma mère tranquille. Maintenant je ne trouve pas la couleur aussi déprimante et peu flatteuse sur moi que je le croyais auparavant. Je n’ai toujours pas osé le monochrome, mais l’idée ne me fait plus frémir :)

    Pour le café par contre je peux pas m’identifier, le plus près de la cafféine dont je suis passée c’est le capp glacé et le chocolat chaud XD

  • Dear Garance, you have such power inside you! I am an anxious person and I think I should quit coffee too. I am like you- love the smell, the ritual, the drink, my husband is Italian and we have only Lavazza coffee at home, well you can imagine how hard it would be for me to quit!
    But now I think that maybe it is time to quit, seriously. Thank you very much for sharing.
    xoxo

  • Caitlyn Stewart September, 10 2016, 9:17

    I can vouch for the fact that cutting out caffeine helps with anxiety. I have a serious anxiety problem, and I cut out caffeine in general (I was a complete bitch for a couple of days too because I decided it was smart to just go cold turkey. Not my best idea). I’ve found that I sleep better now – I use to wake up a couple of times during the night, and overall I’m more relaxed.

    I have the occasional drink that has caffeine in it, but overall I’m caffeine free and really enjoying feeling this chill.

    This was a great post too. I love the idea of changing one thing to help yourself, even if it’s small, and seeing the impact that it has. I’m thinking now that if I just tell myself I like to exercise and do it that could be a very good thing.

  • shopgirl August, 31 2016, 10:05 / Reply

    I do not like black or green tea, it makes my teeth dark, but not the coffee. So for me still coffee. And I drink only one in the morning anyway .
    Regarding the changes, if they come naturally by themselves, I do not have problems with embracing them, But if I have to convince myself very strong or for very long that something is good for me, then I just say to myself . ” O cmon, I’m too old for this sh** ! : -)

  • I gave up Diet Coke. It was like smoking for me–something to have in my hands, to stick in my mouth, when I was nervous or annoyed, especially when working. A break. A treat. Now I have ice water. I had a couple of relapses, but now Coke tastes awful and I don’t want it at all.
    Long before that, though, a boyfriend had dumped me with the insult “you aren’t interesting enough.” Not that he was interesting either. I was 24 and had done little but study. My parents didn’t have money for travel. I went to a local university and worked at a bank. Boring, yes. I decided I didn’t want to be boring. I joined the Peace Corps (and I smiled at Judith’s comment). Two years in Africa, followed by backpacking across Asia. I felt invincible after that. I had great stories to tell. I spoke Swahili fluently. In the absence of packaged foods, refrigerators and electricity, I had learned to cook from scratch. I turned into a completely different person.
    You are right: we accept things about ourselves as written in stone, whereas they are written in sand and easily changed.

  • Love your story :)

  • Mhairi-Stella (@mhairi_stella) September, 1 2016, 4:52

    wow, that really is an amazing change, i absolutely loved that quote about things not written is stone but sand ;-)

  • I loved your story!

  • C’est toujours utile de se remettre en question. Je pense que votre histoire sur le café est intéressante et laisse songeur. Pour cette rentrée, j’ai envie de changer aussi–mais d’une manière plus profonde. Je souhaite être moins perfectionniste et faire un peu plus ce qui me plait. Je voudrais reprendre du temps pour moi, commençant avec l’écriture et le sport. Je voudrais être aussi moins colérique et plus compréhensive envers les défauts de la société et certaines personnes autour de moi…je pense que je serais plus heureuse et plus apaisée. Je souhaite commencer la rentrée étant plus réfléchie aussi–je pense j’ai déjà tout pour être heureuse et que je devrais en profiter.

  • Moi j’ai envie de changer de vie professionnelle à l’approche de la trentaine, comment fait-on Garance ? Je suis d’accord avec Mylène sur le point suivant, comment commencer et par quoi commencer? Et surtout comment trouver le courage quand on a l’impression d’être enfermée dans son petit confort ? Ce post aussi banal qu’il soit car il traite “seulement du fait d’arrêter le café” fait écho tellement il est bien écrit, réaliste et sincère…

  • could not agree with you more. thank you for writing this! it is encouraging and inspiring and brave. One thing that touched me the most about what you shared was the idea that we can change. We are nothing but energy, which flows and moves. And this idea that we could be or are something else other then what we think we are is wild. One of my yoga teachers shared with me one of the most profound things. It blew my mind actually. He said that we are more addicted to who and what we think we are (our identity) then breathing. And that to pulverize the cement of our minds association around this is our life’s work. Why we meditate, right. It is why we are drawn to take risks. :)

  • Ah, Garance – good for you!
    I happen to be a master at quitting things I thought I loved.
    Cigarettes.
    Sugar.
    Coffee.
    Meat (no guilt please, it’s the right decision for me, not you necessarily and I get that)
    I am slowly evolving and adapting to things that make me feel wonderful instead of anxious.
    I have discovered that I am more than my habits and I can change anytime I wish.
    The latest change?
    I quit dying my hair after 25 years.
    Yup….I’m s*&tt*&^ bricks just thinking about it, but I’m doing it anyway.
    Besides, I can change my mind again, right?

  • Et si je quittais Paris? Mon coup de foudre, mon adorée devenue insupportable! C’est drôle de se voir changer, ne se voir jeter au feu des certitudes encore si vraies il y a quelques années. Vive le mouvement!

  • Such an inspiring post. Change is scary, yet we must change in order to grow.

  • R. Carron August, 31 2016, 10:51 / Reply

    This is such a vast topic that you brought up and handled so deftly by focusing on something relatively small (though giving up coffee is HUGE). The whole subject of habit, change, and our willingness to evolve has struck me lately as a major key to living well and improving our lives. Thank you for such a thoughtful post. You have a real knack for making big thoughts accessible.

  • This post totally speaks to me. I’ve always hated exercising too. Gyms just weren’t my thing. Then about two years ago my elderly mother fell and got a serious concussion. I read everything I could on how to improve brain health and found that better than all the brain teaser puzzles is aerobic activity. Then because I have felt like I was forgetting things more easily (as I made my slow approach to 50) I started going to the gym (with my mother) to help my brain. I put on a playlist and walk/run on the treadmill. Soon I started to use the weigh machines. Believe me, no one is more surprised than I am that two years later that I regularly go to the gym 3x a week and really enjoy it! That’s something I would have never thought possible. So now I think, what else can I change? Can I develop that same discipline with writing or meditating? I’m trying.

  • Changing the way I am seen at work. I have worked at the same place since I was very young, so have been seen as such. Now I am going to go from being a girl who has a funny comment and is chatty to a serious woman who is respected for my work and focused attitude. This includes a simplified wardrobe, sort of a uniform, and putting my hair up rather than having it down and flowing while at work. Also, taking mainly of work and not discussing personal topics.
    Do you think this is possible?

  • I get frustrated because coffee shops in the US serve very large portions of strong coffee, even a small size could fill two mugs. It always makes me sweat and tweak out.

    I have a lot less anxiety when I drink a mug of coffee at home. (Plus I save a lot of money!) And after that cup I switch to tea and find it much easier to stay chill and hydrated. In the winter when I am cold and cranky I drink a lot of hot herbal teas. Plus the health food stores have so many varieties of herbal tea, I like experimenting and learning about the benefits of different kinds. The only thing that gets me is sometimes when I drink less caffeine, I find it harder to devote energy to working out.

  • What a great story about perspective and our ability to change. It reminds me of when I had my daughter and lived without enough sleep for nearly a year. It was so hard to be tired everyday and when asked how I was doing I would complain about being tired. One day I realized I sounded like a sad broken record and decided I could still have a really good day. It helped me give in and accept the exhaustion and move thru it with a more positive attitude. We have so much power to shift our focus and impact our lives. Right now I want to fulfill me dreams of starting a business and overcome the fear of failure that comes with being creative. Small steps to start and focus my energy on why this is so important to do…and not concern myself with the outcome.

  • Sunny Side August, 31 2016, 11:43 / Reply

    Je crois que cela s’appelle “des croyances” auxquelles on s’identifie ! C’est bien de faire une liste de ses croyances et les envoyer bouler gentiment ! Le café … les matins zombie sans café, 3 de tension au compteur jusqu’à ce que le corps se désintoxique. J’ai découvert le Tulsi organic tea et çà marche.
    Le noir j’ai commencé à en porter après 40 ans, avant impossible, l’impression d’être une pleureuse grecque ou une veuve corse ! tout cela ce ne sont que des croyances, des idées stupides qui nous ligotent. Donc on peut changer une croyance pour une autre, les salles de sport qui puent la basket, impossible etc … Là maintenant ce serait changer de lieu de vie, de mode de vie et pourquoi pas de continent !

  • Caroline August, 31 2016, 11:52 / Reply

    I had to stop coffee for digestive reasons (it’s very aggressive on the stomach) and it changed my life! Stopped feeling tired after that – well, no, not really, but didn’t feel the rush/need for it and manage fine on green tea.
    I like the idea of changing and not being blocked in our own mental patterns. It’s very liberating but also requires a lot of effort. I’m currently rethinking my relation to work and to working hours, I really hope I will manage to create a new professional outline for myself!

  • I wouldn’t want to quit coffee. :( I could if I had to. But right now it’s such an easy mood lifter for me. :) I just love the thought of a cup of coffee… :)

    And actually, what’s the thing with people not wanting to go to a restaurant alone? I don’t think it’s weird to go alone. I don’t even know a place I would not go alone….

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  • Je ne me souviens plus si tu avais arrêté aussi la cigarette ? Il y a longtemps que tu n’en as pas parlé.
    Dans le ce que je change en ce moment, c’est finir de modifier ma nourriture. J’ai commencé en 2001 quand une maladie inflammatoire chronique des intestins s’est déclarée aussitôt après que j’ai arrêté de fumer (étape 0). J’ai alors supprimé ou presque les produits industriels, arrêté les laitages, beaucoup diminué le blé, et essayé au maximum de consommer local et de saison. Je sais très bien ce que je vais digérer ou non à la vue ou à l’odeur du produit. Je reconnais s’il contient des ingrédients “modernes” de merde que mon corps ne sait pas intégrer. J’ai arrêté tout autre alcool que le vin rouge car c’est le seul qui passe et j’adore ça. (étape 1).
    Ensuite j’ai déménagé de France à Suisse et j’ai pu à nouveau manger des laitages, pas ceux industriels mais ceux de la laiterie, car on a une laiterie par village ici, avec des productions locales et artisanales. Et ça je le digère et mon corps l’intègre. Je consomme encore plus local (car il y a plus de possibilités ici), encore plus de qualité (car j’ai plus d’argent) mais j’étais toujours aussi gourmande, un bec à sucre. (étape 2)
    Je croyais que c’était déjà super mais depuis 3 ou 4 ans j’ai vraiment des problèmes de digestion (je suis la miss ventre extra plat qui cache des tuyaux en vrac avec un tas d’air dedans), qui ne sont pourtant pas liés à ma maladie. Mon gastroentérologue ne sait rien expliquer, alors je lis un tas de trucs sur le sujet et je teste des trucs mais jamais en suppression totale si j’aime ça et si ça ne me fait pas trop de mal. J’en suis aujourd’hui à vraiment diminuer ma consommation de sucre lent ou rapide, car c’est ce qui me fatigue le plus. Si je suis fatiguée en profondeur, j’axe tout sur lipides et protéines, mais naturelles. Manger plein de beurre de ferme et d’huile d’olive pressée à froid ne me fait pas du tout grossir. Manger des glucides oui, mais j’évite pas tout bien sûr, car on en a besoin et puis j’aime aussi manger dehors.
    Je sais que le blé (le blé d’aujourd’hui est trop transformé pour mon pauvre ventre qui agit comme s’il datait du 19ème siècle) et le sucre blanc ne me servent à rien à part me créer des acides à l’intérieur et alimenter l’usine à gaz, que je ne supporte aucune des faux sucres ou des graisses de merde type huile de palme, aucun additifs en tout genre, etc etc. La bouffe moderne ne veut pas de moi, je ne veux pas de la bouffe moderne. Voilà où j’en suis, étape 3. :)
    Autre changement en ce moment qui m’a fait peur au début et que j’accueille avec curiosité maintenant : j’ai des béquilles depuis 3 mois à cause d’une blessure au genou tardivement soignée. Mon corps a changé : perte de muscle à la jambe droite (je n’ai jamais vu ma jambe comme ça), et remusculation des épaules et des bras (ce qui était vraiment bienvenu). Grâce à ça, j’ai appris à tout faire lentement (2 à 3 fois plus de temps pour se préparer le matin par exemple). Je me dis que c’est une nouvelle étape à passer pour un new moi, et j’aime les new moi. :D
    Etape 4 donc, et puis il y en aura plein d’autres j’espère. Je crois que une partie de moi adore le changement en raison des découvertes et apprentissages que ça m’apporte, et une autre aime la constance (exemple mon rituel du lever ou du coucher) car ça me cadre, et j’adore ça aussi. Vive les nouvelles versions de soi ! :D
    (Sev, V4.1)

  • Love love love this. It’s true – these stories we tell ourselves about our identity and essentials, when really they’re just stories. Learning to let go of those things allows so much freedom. Beautiful! I so love this journey that you’re on…

    So what does it tell you about your style? What are you wanting to change? Look forward to hearing!

  • Everyone is talking about you quitting coffee and all I can think about is the fact that you mentioned you don’t wear black?! I can’t believe I’ve never noticed this!

  • Great post I think you’ve hit a nerve, I gave up smoking roll your own some years ago and really enjoyed the freedom. Making sure I had them, looking all over the house for tobacco papers!! Standing outside restaurants in the cold to have one.. However once or twice a year when on holidays and having a drink I will have one no problem. Coffee is the next one, even though it only one a day, I will travel great distances for the perfect one. So yes that’s my goal to have it as a treat. I think it’s very Zen to feel you can take it or leave it, as total denial I feel can also be an attachment. BTW I’ve noticed your style change it seems to be more natural xx

  • I think everything in moderation is ok. You never wear black??? Was you dress not black when you and Chris attended a party in Europe last year. I loved the dress and if I recall you had a personal stylist!!

  • I had a similar experience with coffee. When I started working full-time after graduating, I would bring a coffee to work, thinking that I needed it. And at first, I drank and really felt like I needed it. (I was going from waking up at noon to waking up waaaay earlier.) But then I slowly found myself too b busy to drink the coffee and realized I didn’t seem to need it as much. I just liked knowing that I had it there in case I needed. That was enough to give me energy. If all else failed though, I could just go down the street to get a coffee if I decided not to bring my thermos!

    Great piece about changing your perspective and the freedom you have to change your mindset and anything about yourself. I agree, you definitely have the right. I actually HATE it when people say disapprovingly, “You’ve changed.” like it’s bad. WTF lmao.

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  • I really love this post. It is very inspiring! I think it is important to change, it’s a vital part of life and more people should strive to do so. I’m always so surprised by people who say “You’ve changed.” like its a bad thing like its a dirty thing to do. I would hope that I’ve changed. I hope that I’m always changing. Change is the only true constant in life and it is a beautiful thing. Even though it is something that I struggle with I try my best to embrace change.

  • Almost 16 years ago; I quit coffee. I was trying to get pregnant and it is one the the things you do. Coffee was part of my identity; I grew up in the Northwest, lived above a coffee shop in college and even managed a coffee shop while trying to figure out what I wanted to be “when I grew up”. I too loved the smell, the taste, the ritual of having that first up of coffee in the morning. But I quit cold-turkey and was sick for about three weeks. Then I felt so much better and didn’t have anything with caffeine for many, many years. I was proud that I didn’t have caffeine. It was a big part of who I was.

    A couple of years ago, I started reading about cold brew coffee and decided to give it a try. I loved it but was torn by my no caffeine stance. I thought about it for awhile and decided balance was key for me. Several times a week now I have a cold brew coffee and really enjoy it. It is a treat. I decided that being so rigid about cutting out something I had loved wasn’t healthy either. I doubt I will ever be the gigantic coffee person I had been all those many years ago but a cup here and there is lovely.

    Oh and I do have a beautiful daughter who just started high school.

    XO

  • Je te lis depuis trop longtemps pour ne pas lire entre les lignes: LA HERE YOU COME!! ;-)

  • Great post a small change can make a huge difference. I just finished the Whole30, also cutting coffee and alcohol and it did wonders for me. Sure it makes socializing an effort, but I have more time for activities that nourish me and my relationships.

  • It’t feels somehow weird, but for a little while your experiences here have been sometimes paralleled in my life… tough and more than 10 years younger, live far away, and have a completely different lifestyle… But just about more than a year ago I met a guy, who is the love of my life and made me completely reevaluate and rediscover and question my life and myself… after I thought I had figured it out for myself. Just yesterday I was telling him how weird it all feels – I felt like I was a girl who does this, has these habits, thinks like this… for example I go sailing and playing beach volleyball, travel on my own, put so much importance on my career choices… And now it feels, like it’s gone and I’m different but more myself than ever before. The things that stay are really me, and really me is the one who chooses and changes, but the experience of re-building myself and my life it just feels sometimes not realistic… and in the same gives the freedom of changing. Thank you for sharing.

  • Posts like this are why I keep coming back here. This may sound over the top, but you’re so much more inspirational than “just a fashion blogger” (parenthetically, it’s like how I feel about Sophie Fontanel’s Instagram–I wouldn’t keep coming back to either if there weren’t that real humanity behind the fashion). Interestingly, I just read this earlier this morning and it ties right in:
    http://www.nytimes.com/2016/08/16/your-money/hesitant-to-make-that-big-life-change-permission-granted.html?hp&action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=second-column-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news

  • Christina T. August, 31 2016, 2:43 / Reply

    Its been two months since i quitted smoking, and coffee had never been the same again..so I quitted coffee as well!I’m 39 years old and so stuck to my way of life, that every little change has an enormous impact on me. However, this June was the June of change, me and my husband decided to try for a baby (who? us? unbelievable). I got pregnant and, you know the rest about cigarettes and caffeine!I’m totally grateful that we took a chance to change. That’s life and we don’t have to feel fear of being part of it.

  • Oh que ca me parle!!!!
    Voila un souhait qui me tient a coeur…arreter le cafe.La depuis quelques jours,j’ai deja supprime celui de l’apres midi…c’est beaucoup dans mon cas et la,je dois dire que vous me donnez un coup de pouce pour celui du matin.En meme temps,comment faire quand ici,en grece un the ou jus d’orange esr a 3,50 ?voila,on y revient toujours a ce cote financier duquel dependent tant nos actes.Je souhaite changer aussi mon quotidien,laisser ma maison,construite parce que c’etait un reve (qui ne me convient plus), je voudrais tant un petit appart…entre les deux,16 ans ont passe.Mais qu’il est difficile de faire “accepter ” ces changements a l’entourage qui voit souvent des caprices en place de reelles envies ou besoins.Pour le style…46 balais et toujours en quete de ce qui me conviendrait le mieux (Je suis influencable dans ce domaine).hate de vous lire a ce sujet, peut-etre trouverai-je l’inspiration?

  • These are all half measures – Just move to LA already! (Come on out, the water’s fine.)

  • I so agree with your comment!

  • Le café dont vous parlez n’a rien à vois avec le Café. Ce n’est pas ce liquide que les américains trimballent dans la rue ni cette chose amère – le robusta – sans saveur que les français boivent. Le café est un nectar, légèrement crémeux, deux maximun trois petites gorgées faite d’arabica bien choisi que seule lesitaliens savent faire, boire et apprécier debout dans un bar italien. Ce café là ne rend pas nerveux. J’en sais quelque chose, je suis cardiaque et en bois trois par jour.

  • pommette August, 31 2016, 3:33 / Reply

    ah le café, j’ai souri en te lisant tant je m’y suis retrouvée… je fais des breaks pour ma part quand je sens que j’en bois trop, des petites cures sans café. par contre je ne ressens pas le besoin d’arrêter complètement pour le moment. peut être un jour.
    et les changements, comme je comprends. tiens j’ai fait une chose que j’aurais été incapable de faire il y a 1 an: monter à cheval. j’avais une trouille bleue. et puis mes enfants en font. nous étions en vacances au Portugal et l’occasion s’est présentée. j’en mourais d’envie, et au lieu d’appréhender, j’étais hyper motivée. un moment inoubliable. et aussi le sport. je m’y suis mise dans ma vingtaine. la fille pas souple est devenue accro aux pilates… tout est possible dans la vie, surtout quand on grandit, mûrit, les peurs s’effacent.

  • Oh man, this post… How marvelous to discover that the personality is fluid. What a relief! I went through a BIG change this year (divorce), and suddenly all the ideas I had about myself flew out the window. It was sort of an inverse of what you describe here — big macro change translating to micro life changes — but a huge revelation. We have an unlimited power to exact and attract change in our lives. The timeline, however… hmm, another story.

  • Très intéressant témoignage. Moi, c’est un peu le contraire, j’avais à la base envie de changement, surtout d’un changement d’endroit. Je m’étais convaincue que je détestais l’endroit où je vivais, mais je me suis rendue compte que ce n’est qu’une question de perception et qu’au final, je suis bien installée.

    Cependant, je comprends très bien ce sentiment de redéfinition de ses goûts et valeurs. J’ai passé ma vie à dire que je détestais les champignons et puis maintenant j’en incorpore dans mes menus de la semaine avec le sourire. En fait, depuis que j’ai décidé d’être végétalienne, je travaille pour être la meilleure version de moi, alors je suis toute ouverte aux nouvelles choses qui se présentent.

    Bonne continuation,

  • Les petites révolutions sont encore celles qui durent le plus longtemps. Je crois d’abord qu’il faut avoir et prendre le temps de s’écouter. Tous ces trucs qu’on traîne tant on se dit que c’est nous. Certes ça a dû l’être un temps. Le problème c’est qu’on s’accroche sans le savoir à ces petites bouées qui nous rassure quand on grandit pour ne pas dire vieillit.

    Le café d’abord la clope ensuite. Cet été j’étais au Maroc où le matin il est d’usage de boire du thé à la menthe. C’est bête mais il a suffi de ce changement: thé contre café pour que mon cerveau déconnecte du duo café/clope puisque thé/clope il ne connaît pas.

    Voilà comment parfois les changements se font presque malgré soi (à condition de s’observer/s’écouter) ou pas car bien évidemment dès mon retour le duo infernal café/clope de mon monde de tous les jours a repris.

    Entre temps j’ai réfléchis. Sans nos petites bouées on se dit que notre vie ne sera plus la même et conséquemment ne sera plus notre vie. Or, si on arrive à visualiser une journée sans, on s’aperçoit que la vie continue en mieux. Notre journée reste notre journée, notre moi aussi sauf qu’on a enlevé un truc qui en fait nous encombre voire nous pollue.

    Tout ça pour dire que je m’entraîne à me visualiser/à me persuader sans … (chacun son truc) et c’est plutôt pas mal, c’est même encore plus ressemblant à ce que je suis aujourd’hui. Ah et j’ai repris le sport. Puisque j’ai commencé la clope quand j’ai arrêté le sport et bien à bientôt 39 ans j’ai fait le contraire: arrêter la clope et repris le sport.

  • J’adore cet article… J’ai aussi entamé plusieurs changements dans ma vie et en effet, les habitudes ça se change…
    Une phrase m’interpelle cependant : “Quel effet ça me ferait si j’essayais de ne pas vivre dans une culpabilité permanente ?”
    Garance Doré et culpabilité permanente ?? Vraiment ?

  • This was a refreshing post. A nice change of pace. :)
    Xx,
    Elizabeth

  • This post really resonates with me right now for many reasons. Perhaps it is my age (we are of the same), or just the choices I have made up until now, but one little change can open up a whole new perspective and world. Thank you for putting it out there and for making me feel less intimidated about the change(s) to come.

    Bon courage with the journey.

    http://www.studiominq.com

  • Every a morning you are wake up and choose what kind of person you will be in the future. Every decision taken by you creates you and your world.Personaly, I am convinced that life is too short to quit on what you love.Listen to your a heart and be authentic.

  • Yes! I love it! I’ve been asking similar questions and trying to reroute or rewire my routines in order to change (for the better, I hope, haha!). I can all too well relate to many of your specifics too (see: adopting animals, changing cities, dropping guilt). Xx

  • Love it! I’m soooooooooo curious!? Change your style how? What influenced that shift? Was it an evolution, the camping trip, the new neural plasticity? Please say more, I’m feeling it.
    Way to go! By the way. I stopped drinking over the summer, and smoking weed if I’m being honest, and I feel amazing. Zero cravings for either, and a good thing because I’m pregnant! Xo

  • Caroline August, 31 2016, 8:20 / Reply

    I have had a lot of change in my life this year – new job, new home – I have a new mantra: ‘out of sight, out of mind’, that I have discovered just through going through lots of change. When I am IN something I feel it so intensely – like before I move out of a home or a new job – I focus on the small details about it I love and I feel so brokenhearted about the impending change. But once I am out of that situation it is gone from my life and I am IN the next thing, the current experience and I am happy and not pining for any loss. Perhaps that is what ‘living in the moment is’, in a quiet, day-to-day way.

  • A few years back I quit:
    -smoking
    -some unfriendly friendships
    -anxiety
    -picking up clothes that I loved but just didn’t suit my physique

    Now I want to quit
    -nagging my partner (who is stellar outright amazing) when I’m tired and the kids are tireder
    -the pointless stuff: that pretty thing or the extra pair of whatever
    -doubt
    -sugar

    Garance, I love how you honestly share the questioning and changing you’ve been going through here on the blog for all of us to be wholly inspired by. Thank you.

  • I know exactly what you mean. I just gave up coffee last week. I found myself incredibly nervous, unable to fall back asleep after one of my kids woke up in the middle of the night…in a state of anxious exhaustion all the time. The first few days, especially, were hard, but I feel so much better, tired, but in a more relaxed way. I’m thinking about taking up jogging, which I’ve never been interested in, in the slightest. And with time and age, I’m finding it easier to accept my body without hating it, even if it does change with time and babies. I feel better without coffee and I want to find ways to make myself feel more in tune with myself and better in other ways, more comfortable in my own skin. You’re right, It is amazing that making a change as small as giving up a drink can shed light upon our capacities to change and grow.

  • A 28 ans je quitte mon job dans une grande compagnie sans avoir prepare de nouvelle option. C’est effrayant, mais j’espere que tout va bien se passer. Je me sens un peu comme toi, Garance, quand tu as tout quitte pour devenir illustratrice, sauf que moi je n’ai pas encore choisi la suite. Croise les doigts pour que je fasse un bon choix de carriere. En plus mon boyfriend est en train de vivre l’aventure de sa vie en Californie alors que moi je reste ici a bouder et attendre a ce qu’il se decide a m’ecrire… On dirait que c’est galere de tout les cotes!

  • This is such a deep and inspiring post, however……. while I was reading it, I could help but feel like you are prepping us for a big announcement…… like you are pregnant and moving to LA to live barefoot by the beach. I could be waaaaaay off base, but that is the first thing that popped in my head. Congratulations! (On kicking the coffee I mean) ;-)

  • Such a lovely, loving article. Really wise, really enquiring, really a wonderful reflection of the person you are.

    My special moment began the morning I started, three weeks ago, saying the suryanamaskar mantra whilst doing the different positions of that yoga sequence, an it’s changed my life. Really changed it. I didn’t expect it to, but the sense of physical alignment and inner peace is something unlike I’ve ever experienced before… And it is everything like what you’ve described- that the possibilities for me to be a better person all-round, are now unlimited.

    Thanks for sharing that with us. I think this article has been so uplifting. It makes me so happy to hear how each person’s “one small step” has lead to life suddenly opening up its vast doors to vistas previously unimagined and infinitely amazing.

  • Moi aussi je me trouve dans la même situation, je ne peux plus distinguer les goûts différents entre cafés. Heureusement que les thés sublimes de soit Mariages Frères ou Dammann Frères existent ! Et il y aussi du matcha ! :-)

  • “the purpose of life is to fulfill one’s pesonality” – Julia Hartwig

    I had a big problem with myself, trying to become what a woman should be – fit, eating healthy, with love for colourful dresses or whatever is fashionable this season and satetment hairstyle.

    I only find peace with myself when I do things I love – read philosophy, drink coffee, wander the forests, wear simple clothes and stick to my cat eye makeup. I also embraced my hair that I can’t do anything with, just let it be as it is. Once I realized this is me, I’ve been happy ever since :)

    And yes, I did try everythig – quitting coffee, running competitions, but you can’t fool yourself :) I do like sports – but only a little bit of gymnastics and water sports; I love coffee but I drink one only. Life

  • Tellement vrai comme toujours.
    Moi c’est le sucre que j’essaye d’arrêter. Moi la fille qui n’a jamais pu regarder un film sans un paquet de haribo, je découvre comme toi que finalement je peux y arriver.
    Et ces petites victoires sur soi font du bien
    Bises

  • “Dependency or treat?” is a key question. For me, coffee is a treat, so I don’t feel the need to curb it. I drink coffee for the smell and taste (like anything else we consume), not the caffeine. And also as part of the coffee shop experience. At home, where I drink tea for comfort, I have never wanted any kind of coffee maker – I always associate coffee with being out. So I end up having two or three cups a week, never on an empty stomach. Now, what IS difficult is giving up the MILK that goes in it, and in tea. (Trying to see if my skin improves without dairy). I don’t like it black (watery), and I’m having to try these non-dairy options. Searching for the right one.

    On a sort of related note, I think it’s funny how we sometimes receive a friend’s “abstinence”, particularly when it’s something you bond over. For example, the friend you have always enjoyed a coffee or a wine/cocktail with. You of course support them and their health when they stop, but for a short while it’s a teeny bummer.

  • My favorite non-dairy “milk” for coffee is full fat coconut milk (not the thinner kind in the carton). I like Whole Foods 365 or Native Forest brands. I often semi-whip it after opening a can, and then put it in a jar and refrigerate it. If it happens to be a really thick can, I add a little water when whipping to thin it out.
    When I add it to my coffee it forms a nice little foamy layer on top and it has such nicer body and creaminess than any of the stuff in cartons.

  • Zaza of Geneva September, 1 2016, 5:10 / Reply

    “J’ai toujours eu des rondeurs.” … Ah bon ???? Où ça ??? Parce ce que moi je ne vois rien sur les photos qui indique que tu as des rondeurs…

  • What a wonderful post. Many psychologists agree that personality IS habits. It is often perceived as simplistic approach but in fact this is essentially great news. Because we can change habits so they fit our evolving values and lifestyles better. If you perceive personality as something vague and difficult to understand you often end up saying to yourself “it’s just the way I am”. Well, you don’t have to be :) thanks for spreading this message Garance, fingers crossed for all your endeavors!

  • Ça m’a fait la même chose quand j’ai arrêté la viande. J’étais la fille qui adorait ça, aux repas de famille on plaisantait même sur le fait qu’il me fallait un rôti pour moi et un pour les autres. Et puis il y a cinq ans, après une longue réflexion et un déclic suite à un documentaire sur la bouffe, j’ai décidé d’essayer le végétarisme. Au début je me laissais la liberté de faire des exceptions, mais finalement l’envie même de viande a disparu. Parfois, l’odeur d’un bon steak ou du bacon grillé de mon coloc vient me titiller les narines, mais mon goût s’est vraiment adapté à mon nouveau régime alimentaire et je ne regrette pas du tout de ne plus en manger.
    J’ai également commencé à voir un nutritionniste parce que j’ai pas mal de carences (qui dataient de bien avant mon végétarisme), et je commence à comprendre que certaines choses que je pensais être des traits profonds de mon caractère (besoin de beaucoup dormir, pas trop de résistance à l’effort…) sont sûrement dus à ma santé. Finalement, je ne suis peut-être pas plus “la fille qui met une heure à se lever le matin” ou “la fille qui n’aime pas le sport” que je n’étais “la fille qui adore la viande rouge”.
    Et savoir que certaines choses ne sont pas immuables, ça change radicalement sa perception de ce qui fait sa vraie nature, et ça laisse beaucoup de place pour des améliorations !

  • mmmmm….changer de religion??? yalla! baptême avant le mariage!! ç est LE CHANGEMENT TOTAL! merci Garance pour partager avec nous!

  • Merci pour ce joli article. Connais-tu la Gestalt-Thérapie ? Tu décris de manière parfaite la bonne santé d’un point de vue de la Gestalt, à savoir notre capacité à faire des choix ajustés en fonction des moments de notre vie et de notre environnement, et ces choix ne sont possibles que quand on parvient à se défaire de certaines rigidités que l’on croit être nous : je suis quelqu’un qui ne peut pas démarrer la journée sans un café, je suis quelqu’un qui…
    alors je suis heureuse de te lire en si bonne santé et j’espère que ta capacité à partager aussi simplement et naturellement ces étapes de ta vie convertira plein de monde à ce mode de vie fluide et sain !
    Belle rentrée à toi et toute l’équipe du studio !

  • Enfin, de là à arrêter le chocolat, faut pas déconner non plus ;-) !

    Pareil pour le café, arrêté pendant ma grossesse (il y a 8 ans) et jamais repris (et les rares fois où j’en ai bu, j’ai pas dormi après).
    Pareil pour le noir, qui, finalement n’est pas si choquant sur ma peau claire.
    Pareil pour le sport, jusqu’à ce que je m’inscrive en salle pour accompagner une copine et devienne accro.
    Pour les rondeurs, cf. mon point 1 et le chocolat.
    Et pour l’heure de calme, étant devenue maman, je te promets que quand je ne l’ai pas (de force avec les enfants), elle me manque (pas forcément le matin, mais dans la journée au moins une fois).
    Bref…

  • Merci d’avoir pu écrire le tourbillon de pensées qui se bousculent sans arrêt dans ma tête. Un article qui fait du bien, surtout le jour de la rentrée !

  • le vrai café, c’est Naples..le reste..ce n’est pas du café!
    ciao

  • Yo prefiero despertarme con un saludable té verde y no me aventuro a beber café más allá del medio día. Pero el ritual y el sabor de un buen café, para estar segura un “specialty coffee” certificado, es una entrañable y lujosa experiencia sensorial al alcance de todos y tan variada como su origen y su viaje hasta llegar a la taza que abrazamos. El problema es que el café que solemos beber es malo. Robustas con falta de calidad: cerezas recolectadas verdes, granos con enfermedades o fallos, malos procesamientos y almacenajes, problemas de insectos, mohos… Y para encubrir estos malos sabores, o dar mayor cuerpo, se tuestan demasiado. Si además añadimos una sobre extracción en la infusión: el café que bebemos es muchas veces sólo “un chute” quemado y amargo de cafeína. Pero también hay cafés ricos con nombres y apellidos de las comunidades y fincas donde son cultivados y procesados con cuidado y con las que se comercia con un precio más justo. El café de especialidad se tuesta localmente (en las ciudades donde bebemos el café) para caramelizar el azúcar y subrayar sus aromas. Éste es un café fresco, pleno de su sabor y aromas con notas a caramelo, chocolate, afrutadas, cítricas… Y muy poca cafeína. Más saludables y caros, ok. (A veces muuuy caros).

  • Garance, I just wanted to say how much this helped me. I shared it with my husband and I even printed it out and read it again this morning. My husband and I have been both in the process of change (diets, exercise, creative passions, etc.) and there have been a lot of internal road blocks that we put up and didn’t even realize. So reading this from someone I really admire made me feel like I am not alone and I can make these changes I so desperately want. Thank you!

  • Its always good to hear about someone’s improvement. Congrats. Changing your style is a big deal and I’m eager to see where it goes.

  • Oh, please talk about wanting to change your style! I feel like a snake, wiggling out of all my former clothes into a new skin. I’m 42, lots of things have changed in the past years and many of my clothes just don’t feel right anymore, same with stuff, on my computer, looking for a clearer picture, can’t pin it… (haven’t started Mari condo-ing yet, though) Why do you want to change your style? And into what? Do you have a clear vision of this new look? Do you think it’s because of aging or just life changes that need to be reflected… Am curious, please do elaborate :)

  • je comprends bien ce sentiment, ça commence par un détail et alors ça ouvre plein d’autres possibilités. les pensées enfermantes, sur nous-mêmes, on peut en avoir tout plein, je peux ou ne peux pas faire ça, je n’aime pas ça, ça c’est moi, ça c’est pas moi, c’est pas mon style etc etc… ce n’est qu’une réalité construite et lorsqu’on s’aperçoit qu’on peut la déconstruire, alors un monde nouveau s’ouvre… :)

  • This is great! But why not decaf? I had the same problem as you, switched to decaf, and everything’s shiny! I was able to keep the ritual, the smell, the taste, everything, and the caffeine is gone. Now I can enjoy several coffees every day :-)

  • I unsubscribed from all but 5 blogs/news feeds, not yours of course. Letting go of all that information made time for me to focus my attention on the few I do enjoy reading. I’ll try giving up coffee again…that has been harder than unsubscribing. Thanks for the inspiration!

  • Anything this real is scary, thank you Garance for what you’ve written here. I’m trying to give up fear. I’m trying to give up my fear of being alone. I’m trying to let go of my fear of finally telling the person I love how I feel. I’m trying to give up the idea of who I thought I would be for the rest of my life.

  • Love this post, and love love love so many of the comments. For me, the big wake up to breaking down the box of who I *thought* I was came from practicing yoga. All my life, I had been “stiff”, “not flexible”, not good at physical things. I was told this as a child, and I embraced it, it became my story – and I thought it was who I was. But after six months of practicing Ashtanga yoga daily, I could do the splits, something I never could as a child. I suddenly realized, I had chosen that identity(as not flexible) – but it wasn’t who I truly was (and neither is being flexible who I truly am…). That was over fifteen years ago, but my life expanded with courage from that point. With practice and dedication, you can be (almost!) anything. Again, gratitude for this inspiring post – and good luck with breaking down more habits that no longer serve.

  • I just started to stop drinking coffee for the past 2 weeks, the coffee withdrawal is so real. My head hurt and crave for caffeine. I use to drink at least 1 cup everyday but now replaced it with macha, tea, chocolate or just water. I still miss it, one tea at a time.

  • Sortir de la fameuse zone de confort est le début de tout, même par de petits minis changements….on reçoit en beaucoup plus grand au fur et a mesure des jours et des mois qui passent. tout début est un bon début ;)

  • Rosalind Grace September, 5 2016, 5:46 / Reply

    I loved this article, thanks so much for sharing!

  • Merci pour cette chronique qui me parle beaucoup! Prendre consciences de nos habitudes, de nos rituels,…Un changement entraînant un autre changement… Finalement, qu’est-ce qu’on se sent bien!

  • Ah Garance !
    en ce moment je lis un livre sur le pouvoir des habitudes ( edition clés des champs)…
    Très interessant ! où comment nos habitudes s’ancrent dans notre cerveau afin de gèrer mieux les multiples obstacles de la vie au quotidien. E oui je me rends compte que lorsque je faisais un peu de footing régulièrement, c’était devenu une habitude agréable qui me donnait la pêche. J’ai arrété depuis 1 an et j’ai un mal de chien à m’y remettre … il fait trop chaud, il pleut, je ne suis pas dispo … bref… je vais me faire violence et y arriver je le sais mais cela prend du temps …. Ensuite, arréter de grignoter en rentrant du travail . et puis trainer trop au lit le weekend et voir sa journée filer trop vite . .. Le tout est de comprendre que l’on peut changer .Mon plus grand changement serait de partir seule faire un grand voyage . je rêve de Californie ( je l’ai fixé pour le prochain été) un rêve depuis que je suis petite fille même si ces temps ci on en entend pas mal parlé . Alors bien sûr c’est assez déstabilisant de partir seule mais c’est aussi très enrichissant …. le changement a aussi commencé avec le dessin et je m’y tiens , c’est déja cela ! Voilà !!

  • Bonjour Garance,
    Je consulte ton blog depuis des années et je suis vraiment étonnée de voir à quel point les différentes étapes de ta vie font écho à la mienne. J’ai également envie de changements mais ce n’est vraiment pas évident de quitter sa zone de confort surtout à 45 ans…..mais petit à petit on se conditionne et peut-être que les choses se mettront en place naturellement….
    Merci de partager tout cela avec nous.
    On ne se connaît pas mais c’est comme si tu étais une copine et quelque part c’est rassurant!

  • Rousspétée September, 10 2016, 3:13 / Reply

    Merci ! Pour tous ces articles sur ton évolution personnelle, ce pas-à-pas, une fois en avant, une fois en arrière, une fois de côté mais toujours vers toi. Ce toi d’aujourd’hui qui peut changer demain. C’est si fantastique n’est-ce pas de vivre 1000 vies dans sa seule vie ?! Je crois que nous évoluons tous de la sorte : on se trouve, on se perd, on s’enferme, on se combat, on se délivre. Qu’est-ce qu’on se fatigue ! On ne pourrait pas être si bien, si libre avec soi-même dès le départ ? Ou alors c’est que la route vaut le détour peut-être ? Comment apprécier le Machu Picchu si on n’a pas marché pendant des jours pour le mériter ? Merci, merci et des bises !

  • Catherine CHARLES September, 17 2016, 2:34 / Reply

    Garance, c’est très émouvant que tu nous laisses entrevoir les changements majeurs qui se passent pour toi.
    Cette levée des voiles est très courageuse, s’autoriser à changer en profondeur…
    Si compliqué et à la fois si simple.

    Profites bien des tes aspirations qui nous réjouissent.

    Catherine

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Weekend Guide: Upstate