But not all of them are fashionable right now. That’s what my sister and I said to each other when we saw a young girl, super pretty, with firm, voluptuous curves and a round butt.
“That’s the body that’s in right now.”
Then we saw a super skinny, pale girl go by who wasn’t very muscular: “Late 90s!” I kept placing people in their decade as I watched them go by. Me, I’ve always known I had an 80s body – late 80s, early 90s, athletic, bold shoulders, narrow hips, kind of like Stephanie of Monaco.
At the time, I was unfortunately too young to understand how lucky I was. For a few years there, I could have enjoyed the bliss of having a trendy body.
The swimsuits back then fit me perfectly, girls in magazines looked like me and I got compliments nonstop.
I was hot, okay? Duh. Hahaha.
Then Kate Moss arrived, and once again I was much too immature to understand it was just fashion that was changing. I quickly realized I would never be like her, and boom, just like that, I probably tried to lose weight, probably never really managed to do it, and with no warning, I was no longer hot. Elle Macpherson (another one of my idols, someone I could identify with) totally disappeared from the glossy pages of magazines and just like that, my glory days were gone forever.
Even so, I kept following trends as they went by, observing them with a certain kind of detachment. It’s funny. In my mom’s heyday in the 80s, it was going to the gym and having rock hard abs that was all the rage. Small, muscular butts. And bag balm sun tans. In the 90s, super models had womanly, healthy-looking bodies, but that didn’t last long. By the end of the 90s, everyone wanted to look skinny, fragile and pale with tiny breasts, tiny asses and minuscule shoulders. Then in the 2000s, bodies changed again — Gisele arrived and we all wanted long, lean Pilates muscles AND boobs—in other words, unrealistic bodies (when you’re super skinny and super muscular, it’s rare to have boobs) with a nod to the new improvements of plastic surgery.
And now in the 2010s, girls who couldn’t stand their butts before suddenly cherish them, shake them and thanks (yes, thanks) to girls like Kim Kardashian, curvy bodies are starting to make a comeback in the media.
Yep, life is kind of silly that way, because while following trends when it comes to shoes and coats can be fun, it’s hard to make heads or tails (haha) of body trends. Even so, it’s easy to not get influenced and feel the pressure. Thankfully we now have Instagram and Ashley Graham, but even she can’t stop what’s happening right now—the obsession with muscles and crazy fitness.
It’s too bad because the truth is, no matter what decade it is, every body type has its own beauty, and we can’t sit around waiting for our bodies to be validated by a trend… It’s up to us to find assurance within ourselves (I assure you, I have a hard time with this myself) and it’s up to us to define our own ideals and make them a reality. It’s up to us to stop all the self-criticism and judgement. It’s up to us to find our own beauty and ignore the rest. That’s what Ashley Graham does, and that’s why we like her—it’s not about her waist size. It’s because she pushes boundaries and doesn’t apologize for it.
A body wrapped up in self-love is always a beautiful body.
On that note, me and my bikini will let you go. We’re headed to the beach to try and practice acceptance, self-love and shakage of the non-booty. Hehe.